Unwrap Yourself Event by FGRLS - Afterthoughts
Why are girls SO obsessed with talking about sex today?
I've recently moved into a warehouse with 9 other people, 6 girls, and 3 boys. And I'm beginning to realise, contrary to popular belief...ladies seem to be WAY more obsessed with talking about sex than lads, it's all they fucking talk about! Granted, sex chat is one of the most entertaining conversations you can have, but give a girl an inch (so to speak) and watch as she runs a mile, chatting about 'this one time' and 'that one guy'.
Well, I'm thinking, maybe one reason why there seems to be such an uprise in events like Unwrap Yourself lately, focusing on female sexual liberation, is because we have been raised in an age when sex education in schools completely glazed over so many aspects of natural sex, eg. foreplay, pleasure and experimentation. This leaves girls with so many misconceptions, body dysmorphia, and the general question of...
'Am I normal?'
If you rewind to your teenage years, it seems to work the other way around. There's a straaange and sticky paradox in high school...
Girls, you keep them legs and lips shut tight baby girl! Admit you've watched porn and you'll be banished to the furthest lands, branded a harlot for the rest of your days.
'No, of course, I've never watched porn! Me? Masturbate? No no no, women are immune to hormones.'
'Ok, so who's your favorite porn star?'
'Well, I'm a big fan of Stormy Daniels but recently Kendra Lust has really been doing it for me, she really commits to the plot and I appreciate that.'
Girls tend not to talk as openly as boys about the intricacies of sex during high school, despite the fact that a lot of women lose their virginities in this time (according to NHS Borders, a third of Brits lose their virginity before the age of 16). If they are talking about sex, you can guarantee its gonna be rose-tinted and doused with glitter. The result of this is that we become pent up with years worth of questions, stories and experiences that have never been validated by anyone before, and this can be really scary!
However, now that we're older and in this era of openness and acceptance, these topics are being approached much more candidly and honestly, enabling women to share and learn. Yes, it's fun and a bit of a giggle, but the impact of it can touch much deeper than that. It's incredibly therapeutic to have your past experiences, even traumas, acknowledged by a community of people who can relate, wants to listen, and wants you to heal. Going to events like Unwrap Yourself has answered so many questions for me personally, for which I'm very grateful. If you're worried something's not quite right, if you've experienced something that you're struggling to overcome, or if you just fucking love chatting shit about sexy sex, then I would thoroughly recommend finding an event like Unwrap Yourself!
Gashtrays / Hani